“Can you guys slow down
a bit? There are little kids
here, and we don’t want
them to get hurt.”
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overwhelmed with their lives and their
role as disciplinarians,” says Kendrick.
Even a fairly mild suggestion from another parent that their kid needs to be
reined in comes across as both an indictment and a personal attack because
we see our kids as extensions of ourselves. Since we all have moments when
we doubt our own ability to parent effectively, we don’t have the confidence to
question other people’s skills in that
arena. And last but not least, if we grant
ourselves permission to judge others,
then we’re saying it’s okay for them to
judge us. That can be a terrifying thought
for some insecure parents. Why open
that door? Better to keep to yourself
and expect others to do the same. In
short: no harm, no foul.
Except that’s not really true. Creating
and perpetuating a culture that deprives
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